Monthly Archives: September 2014

Sealing With Serum vs. Oil on my Hair


I never understood why people with kinkier curls than mine were able to take down a pineapple, shake and go, when mine just stiffly adopted the shape of the pineapple.

I use organic gels that do not make my hair stiff, so what was causing the greasy stiffness?

Culprit: Oil! 

When I first went natural I didn’t dare let oil touch my hair unless I was doing a hot oil treatment/ deep conditioning; I guess I still had the “straight hair syndrome” of not wanting to weigh my hair down. Instead, I sealed my natural hair with serum, which has a lighter feel.

As the years went by and I did my second chop, I began developing classic natural hair practices like sealing with oils. I even went on a rant about the difference between sealing oils (castor, jojoba, shea) vs moisturizing oils (olive oil, avocado oil, etc.)

My transition to sealing with oils instead of serum lead to frustration because my hair just doesn’t seem to like being coated in oil. I can tell this from the way my wash n go dries in comparison to sealing with a serum. It looks nice and shiny on camera, but greasy in person.

Through trial and error, I came up with a conclusion: my hair doesn’t hate oils in general, it just doesn’t like being sealed with oil. I can do hot oil treatments, massage my scalp with them, etc., but sealing, I need to give it up.

Jojoba oil is one of the best sealants for those of you whose hair like being sealed with oil, since it mimics our natural sebum. However, I’ve noticed that when sealing MY HAIR with oil, even though my hair retains moisture, I do not have much movement when it dries. It feels a bit stiff and oily, even when using minimal.

Yesterday I used my Garnier Fuctis serum that I’ve used for years, and now only use for flat ironing to seal my wash n go and observed a few things:

1) more movement from my hair

2) less weighed down, fluffier curls

3) still shiny, but not oily

4) softer hair even on second day


My hair loves the consistency of serums or any serum-like product over oil. I’ve tried products that claim to be serums, but have an oil consistency, and my hair, although it liked the product, produced the same results as when I use an oil to seal. I’ve noticed all-natural serums all have the consistency of an oil, which breaks my heart.

All/ most serums that have a glycerin consistency are packed with at least one or more silicons. Maybe it’s the silicons that give it its consistency. This concerns me because I am not a fan of silicons; well silicons in moisturizers. 

Silicons are sealants; stronger sealants than oil. If you have silicons in your conditioners and moisturizers, you are NOT moisturizing/conditioning your hair. It is just sitting on top of your strands creating a barrier. This is why silicons are excellent sealants.

They even use silicons to seal cracks in pipes, doors, windows, flooring,  so it should absolutely not be used in conditioning products.

With that being said, I use hair serums for my sealing step of my wash n go’s. Therefore, I am making sure to condition and moisturize (leave in, creams, etc) with all organic products, so they penetrate my strands, then lock in that moisture with my serum containing silicone.

As much as this transition is going to pain me, because I’m so against silicons, you must understand it depends on the way you use it.

My biggest concern is getting the silicone out of my hair in preparation for the next wash, since I do not like using sulphates either.

Sulphates strip the hair, but is one of the few things that can wash away silicons. But guess what?

Baking soda, a natural ingredient can also remove silicons from hair.

I already cleanse my low porosity hair with a baking soda rinse every week/ every other week to avoid extra build up. Therefore I need not worry. The baking soda will cleanse away the silicone containing sealant.

Meanwhile, I know if I switch back to sealing with serum, my hair would be softer, have more movement (maybe I can pineapple again), and my moisture would be locked in securely until wash day. Maybe that will help limit my hair washing to once a week and give my hair a break from washing and going every 2-3 days. Doubt it (lol).

I haven’t re-adopted the pattern yet. Will keep you all updated.





8 Reasons I’m Single & you Should Mind Your Business.



I felt like this post was much needed. I have a birthday coming up, and you know when you start getting older your parents and people in general go from “You’re not ready to date” to “When exactly are you going to start dating?” Annoying to the highest extent.

Below are 8 reasons I  am single and don’t mind one bit; cross my heart.

1) I’m in my 20s. I don’t have to be committed if I don’t want to be. Stop interrogating me.

2) I’m purposely not approachable to the opposite sex. Calm your tits, I’m straight as a pin. I purposely set my demeanor as unavailable because I’m genuinely not looking. If love finds me, then damnit, but I do not go to singles gatherings, hesitant to give out my number/ go on casual dates, and I don’t read into compliments. I take them platonically and keep it pushing.

3) Just landed the perfect job for a free spirit in their 20s. I just got hired as a flight attendant, however I haven’t received my official wings yet, until I pass training. I don’t want any distractions. I lose focus easily in relationships. Also I’m going to be doing a ton of traveling and I have trust issues. Lastly, I don’t want to feel used for traveling perks. I’m already starting to feel used and I’m not even official yet.

4) I never wanted to get married in my 20s. EVER. I will however accept a proposal if God happens to plan my life that way, and everything feels right. Other than that, I am not interested in heavy commitment in my 20s.

5) I’m a late bloomer. Some of the things some of you were doing at 16, I wasn’t until 19, 20. Let me continue to take my time please.

6) If I commit young I will rebel. I know if I causally glide through my youth, then at 30 I would have little “what-ifs”. I will be able to dedicate my time fully to my husband and family. My mom, although beyond awesome, got pregnant with me at 16, had me at 17, got married at 19 and so I watched her dishearteningly try to relive her 20s .

7) To prove a point. My mom was married at 19, my stepmom at 24, and my brother at 19., all for a common reason (a kid). I don’t fall into that category, so why tie myself to someone if I don’t necessarily have to. I have the whole rest of my life to do so. I’m definitely the rebel of the family ( not reckless, just like to play devil’s advocate). I feel like a lot of ppl in relationships have settled with someone because of an unfortunate circumstance or because they are just scared to be alone. It also breaks my heart seeing extremely intelligent classmates end up in unfortunate circumstances. I expected so much from them. I just absolutely hate seeing  people not live up to their full potential.

8) I’m a modern traditionalist. Yes monogamy is the ultimate goal. Yes I want to get married, yes I want a kid (keyword “a”, 1, uno), and yes I want the white pickett fence, long, 20-something yr marriage I’ve seen my parents on both sides have, BUT we live in a different time!

I’m a modern traditionalist in the sense that I think a woman should be submissive to her husband, but only if he deserves it. I think the man should be the head of the household, but if family crisis arises, the woman should be capable of stepping up to help instead of crying and watching things crumble.

In that same sense, as I said, I want to be married, but I do not believe a woman needs to be married in her 20s. If I don’t get proposed to before I’m 30, I won’t die!

Also, I don’t believe a woman has to conceive early in her 20s to have a healthy pregnancy. I don’t even want a kid until I’m around 29, and I only say 29, because again society and doctors have this theory that having kids after your 20s causes complications.

They need to re-evaluate that theory. Most people who choose to further their education aren’t finished with school until their mid 20s. After that they have student loans to pay in an economy where jobs are limited; let’s not forget the population is around 3 women to 1 man. With that being said, you’re dealing with financial problems, and difficulty finding “the one” within a host of young men who think they are entitled to side pieces, solely based on population ratio.

Women are getting smarter and working harder. What women 20 yrs go put up with, women today aren’t having it.

So back to my point. You have doctors and society pressuring you to have a baby/get married before 30, yet you are just learning the round abouts of life in your  mid 20s.

Realistically, only a handful are lucky to have it all by then, and by have it all I mean the dream job, husband (ring and papers to clarify), kid, white picket fence, etc. by 30. The rest have settled. I rather die solo than be the rest. Sad right? It’s ok, I’m judging you equally.

Disclaimer: I think relationships are awesome, and an awesome relationship in your 20s where you both have it together is a rare blessing, just do not feel the need to judge someone who decides to focus their attention elsewhere at that point in their life. Times have changed. To each its own.

The Cost of Youth. Laser Tattoo Removal



Today I started the process of removing two of my tattoos.

Before I got those tattoos, I did indeed consider the future, but I wasn’t sure of the profession I would land. I felt however, that I could easily just cover them with makeup.

Covering them with make-up for conservative settings like my internship, interviews etc, did work because they are quite tiny, but it became tiresome.

Reason for removal

When I fell in love with the idea of wanting to become a flight attendant, I knew I had to get them removed. I hesitated because landing a flight attendant job is a process of its own, because of how competitive the application process is.

I didn’t know how long it would take, or if I would even be successful in being selected by an airline.

When I got my job offer, I panicked under my overly joyous demeanor.

Tattoo removal is not done overnight, or with just one appointment. It is a long, painful, extremely expensive process.

Today I went to my first appointment at Dr. Tattoff’s office here in Atlanta.


The cost for removing each tattoo, combined for every treatment was almost 1,000 per tattoo.

The receptionist liked me, and so she gave me a great deal, which realistically is still pretty costly. She charged me $967 for both tattoos combined.

The $967 includes 9 treatments, everything included (after care treatment, numbing, etc.). If my tattoos do not disappear by 9 treatments, she said they would continue free of charge. If it took less treatments, I would be reimbursed accordingly.

They factor your cost based on skin tone, size of tattoo, shading vs outline, color of tattoo, etc.

They have a chart consisting of 5 skintones:

1) Pale/ Porcelain


3) Olive

4) Brown

5) Dark

Three, four and 5 being ethnic skintones, 4 and 5 being mostly African American/Hispanic. She listed me a 4.

Black ink tattoos are the easiest to treat, pink , purple and green and pastels are generally the most difficult. Mine are both black ink.

Outlines and smaller tattoos are also of course easier. Both of mine are only 1 inch/less.


The pain was not as bad as I thought. It felt the same to me as getting the tattoo.  They numb you a little, but I decided to do it without getting numbed because I was in a hurry. You will feel some sort of pain whether or not you choose to get numbed.

She spent less than 5 minutes zapping each tattoo, and it was over.

It smelt like burned flesh and my skin was on fire, but she had cool air blowing out of a nozzle the whole time on the areas. The room was also freezing.

Also keep in mind that ethnic skintones cannot be treated as aggressively with laser as pale and fair skin can. It runs a high risk of hyper and hypo pigmentation.

This really is a downer because this means double the amount of treatments.


Getting frustrated with the process is my biggest concern. Also the cost really is depressing. It basically cost the same as say a boob job if she didn’t give me a discount. (Natural boobs btw 🙂 Don’t need one, lol).

Also I fly out for training at the end of October. My training lasts 3 weeks, yet my next appointment is November 7th. If you don’t show up to your appointment without notice, they charge your card a $25 fee.

I’m worried I would not be able to make treatment dates, which are 7 weeks apart. I really wish they were 4 weeks apart, like some other places.

Also, Dr. Tattoff is only located in Atlanta, Beverly Hills, and 3 other places she listed, but none of them are one of my flight attendant base choices, which means I will have to fly home every 7 weeks for treatment.

I have high hopes my treatments wouldn’t take as long as she estimated.

I’m going to ask her to treat them more aggressively the next appointment. I rather have a scar than the tattoos at this point. If I was white, I would have only needed 4 treatments.

Final thoughts

Please consider your future entirely, and intelligently when making a decision to get a tattoo on a certain location of your body.

I still love tattoos, and I see nothing wrong with them. I am extremely artistically inclined and see them as a way of expression. However, location definitely matters, unless you plan to live all aspects of your life free-spiritedly, including your profession.

I will continue to cover them and submitt paperwork to my airline, until they are completely gone. The thought that my skin would be renewed to a new canvas in a matter of months is quite liberating.