Monthly Archives: April 2014

Protective Styling With Hats. The Same Concept As Wigs

Disclaimer: this will be convenient mostly for weekend errands or for college students during the week. If you work a corporate job Mon-Fri, then the former may suit your lifestyle.

I’m not a wig, sew-in weave, braids, or in general any protective hair style kind of girl.

I have a sensitive scalp and on top of that my styles do not last long.

I honestly don’t see how people go a week (+) without wetting/washing their hair. My scalp would become inflamed.

I co wash three times a week and even more in the summer.

This week as I await my Nubian Heritage serum to arrive in the mail, I’ve been putting off co washing my hair.

It has also been a lazy week for me. I just didn’t get the urge to style my hair, so I opted for hats.

I love hats. I own a pair in many different styles.

However, the material lining of hats can be damaging to hair due to friction.

I decided to protect my hair with a satin beanie that I got from the beauty supply store under my hat. The satin beanie looks just like a wig cap lol.

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That’s when I realized the concept of wearing a hat to protect your hair is like the equivalent of wearing a wig.

For the past 4 days that I haven’t co-washed, I’ve been doing the following:

1) spritzing a little water on my palm and rubbing unto hair ( I didn’t want my hair too damp)

2) sectioning my hair in 5-6 sections and applying a small amount of melted shea butter to each section, and castor oil on my hairline only.

3) twisting each section, then pinning my twisted hair down with bobby pins

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4) I then put on my satin beanie scarf

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5) Put my hat over my satin beanie scarf, finished getting dressed as usual, and I was good to go.

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Do Better Quality Guys Really Approach You With Natural Hair? The One That Got Away..Sorta

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I always thought the definition of “the one that got away” was solely directed to being unappreciative of a man or woman you were once in a relationship with. I didn’t think I had one of those. In fact, I believed if that was the case, I was the “one that got away” in my relationships.

However after reading an article, I realized “the one that got away” could be a simple crush that seemingly had all of the qualities you were looking for, but you weren’t mentally/emotionally ready.

Here’s my “one that got away” story..

 

After the third time I finally gave him my number.

It was early 2011 or maybe the end of 2010 (I don’t remember specifically), but I worked part-time at Target as a cashier.

Around that time I was not the happiest with my love life nor the financial portion of school.

I was an out of state student, who had been constantly trying to get in-state tuition, and got denied repeatedly, so I was considering transferring schools.

On top of that my ex (my first) was having a baby in the next few weeks or months (as I said I don’t remember dates specifically),and I didn’t know how to cope with my first heartbreak ever.

At the time you could have presented me with the finest guy to attempt to get me to get over the situation, but I would have still been depressed.

I had recently also gotten my natural hair “big chop”, and some days I didn’t feel very confident wearing my short curly fro after years of wearing straight hair past my shoulders.

Guys tried to get my number at the cash register often, but my famous line was ” I have a boyfriend, sorry :(” . I used to say that so much, I started to believe my own lie.

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I think it was a Saturday morning the first time he came to my register to check out. I had the top half of my short curly fro pinned back, and the back out.

I had worked an 8hr shift the day before until closing, and I didn’t really want to be there that morning, so I said, “Hi, how are you?” without looking up.

He answered bk, I rang up his item and handed him his bag (still not looking at him directly). He said thanks, walked past the side of my register and said “You are extremely attractive by the way. Can I call you sometime?”

I automatically said ” I have a boyfriend, sorry :(”

I wanted to slap myself. He was fine as ever. Why did I say that. It slipped out! *Face palm*

I had to remain unbothered because I had other customers waiting in line, although I wanted to kick myself.

I went home and told my roommate and she wanted to kick me too lol. We agreed that I probably would never see him again, so there was no use in beating myself up over it.

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It was a rainy evening. A guy in a navy colored suit came up the escalators. Omg, is that him? I think it’s him. I fixed my hair, checked myself out in the silver table scale attached to the register belt, blushed and said hi when he passed by.

The whole time I was hoping he would come to my register to check out.

I saw him walking towards the registers with his item. He always only came in Target for 1 item. I assumed he lived nearby.

He came to my line and I smiled. He smiled back. I rang up his item, he paid, I put his stuff in his bag, he said thank you, told me to have a good night, walked away, and that was it.

WTF! He didn’t ask for my number again. Why???? :/ <–(Because you told him you had a boyfriend nutcase, lol!)

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It was a busy Saturday afternoon at my job.  I got to work late, I didn’t have time to do my hair nice; I just wasn’t feeling it that day.

I was zoned out, ringing customers up, when I heard a voice say, “Oh, so you go to Georgia State?”

I looked up like “Excuse me..”, and automatically started blushing. It was him again! 🙂

“Yea,” I told him, looking down at the logo on my shirt under my red cardigan, then back up at his handsome face.

I made sure to get a good look at him, and made sure he was going to leave with my number that time; all he had to do was ask! ( I’m traditional when it comes to gender roles.)

He asked for my number, but I had a long line of customers, plus my supervisor was standing right next to me, so I didn’t want to give it to him verbally, and look unprofessional, so I told him to wait for me to finish ringing up the rest of my customers and I’d give it to him.

He was such a sweetheart. He went over to the seating area and sat there while I rang up my long line of customers. When I noticed my line kept getting longer, I quickly scribbled my name and number on a piece of paper, folded it up and told one of my co-workers to give it to him.

She did, he waved, I waved back, and he left. I was in a better mood for the rest of the day.

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I got off and he had already texted me 🙂 That’s what’s up. Guys usually try to wait a few days and what not to look cool. He was very straight forward and wanted to hang out.

I appreciated his straight forwardness, but I automatically started wanting to find the problem with this guy. He was fine, put together, spoke well, was getting ready to graduate from Georgia Tech, had his own place in a nice area, car. “What was wrong with him?” I asked myself.

I immediately started to pull away.

As I stated in the beginning, I had recently just gone through my very FIRST heartbreak, and I wasn’t looking. I was physically, yes, but I didn’t want to get emotionally invested, and I was scared because he was everything I wanted on paper, but he came into my life at an inconvenient time.

I wasn’t mature enough for him back then. I had only seriously dated one guy, since I wasn’t technically allowed to date back in high school. I only knew what one heartbreak felt like, and didn’t even heal yet.

I didn’t have enough experience to differentiate a good man from a bad man or guys’ tactics, all  I knew was that I opened up to one guy, was naive and got played.

I had a doubtful mindset about men in general at that point, so the first time he asked to take me out somewhere, I lied and said I was busy.

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The second time he asked me out, he asked to take me to go get ice cream up the street from my place. I lied again and told him I was busy. It actually kind of turned him on. Men seem to love being ignored.

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The third time, he asked if I wanted to come over to his place after I got off work while it was still light outside. I definitely turned that request down, then felt bad that I kept turning him down to hang out. How were we going to get to know each other? But that was the point. I was scared to get close to another guy.

I text him the following Monday and asked if he could come over to my place after I got out of class. It was extremely rainy that day, but he still came by, and boy were things awkward. I was really cold, and shy. We didn’t really have anything to talk about.

I started thinking to myself, why did I invite a stranger over to my place? Why didn’t i just let him be the man and take me out like he requested. Why couldn’t I just let my wall down and let him show me a good time? I don’t know.

I asked him when his birthday was to try to lighten the mood. Normally if I know someone’s zodiac sign, it helps me relax because I am able to generally analyze a few things about them.

As soon as he told me he was born in early July (I think he said July 8th) I brought up my ex who was born on July 4th, the same year as him too. I told him my ex was also a Cancer, and I jokingly scolded him based on that.

He shortly left, and I thought that was that.

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Surprisingly a few days later he asked if I wanted to go to a social gathering with him. I was happy, because I did like him, and I wanted to apologize for judging him based on my ex. I wanted to apologize for bringing up my ex period. I told him I’d let him know, because I honestly did promise my friend that same night I’d go out with her.

I didn’t end up going out with him, but we texted each other back and forth that night.

After that, he stopped texting me less and less, until I eventually stopped hearing from him.

I honestly didn’t mind at first because of my situation, and he was too good to be a rebound.

Also my ex had just had his baby, I was in the process of really transferring schools due to my financial situation, and I just didn’t really care about much.

I changed my number a few weeks after, because I switched phone companies. I text him my new number, he responded and said he got it, but never used it.

I saw him a few times at my job after we stopped talking, and it was of course awkward. He came to my line one time, but I didn’t speak. I just rang up his stuff up and tended to the next person.

That summer, I moved out of Atlanta because I transferred schools. I thought of him a couple of times after moving. Random, unexpected thoughts because  I couldn’t quite put my finger on what happened. I knew I drove him away a bit, but I guess there was just never an argument or incident that I could think of that would make him stop texting me after working so hard to get my number.

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I moved back to Atlanta a year later, summer 2012. I was friends with him on Facebook. I thought about reconnecting with him, but I forgot I had deleted his number. I soon got involved with someone else.

Last summer (2013) he reached out to me on Facebook with a simple “hey”. I said hey back and that was that.

I had just gone through my second heartbreak. I don’t even know if it was a heartbreak or hell, to be honest. I don’t even know how to define love anymore. Can lust give you a broken heart?

..Tuh, anyway, I thought it was coincidental that every-time I got my heart broken he would pop up, without knowing.

I thought he would sail the conversation, but he left it at hey, and as I said, I’m traditional about gender roles, so I left the conversation as is.

A few months ago, he changed his relationship status to in a relationship. I don’t have a personal Facebook profile anymore, so I’m not sure what he is up to these days, but she’s a lucky girl.

I also noticed she has natural hair. When he approached me I had just gone natural. Also I felt he was more attracted to me when my hair was in it’s natural state, compared to when he saw me with it flat ironed. Normally I get the opposite reaction from men.

So tell me, since you’ve gone natural, has the quality of men that approach you risen a notch? I would love to hear your thoughts.

I’m going to have to take a moderate stance when answering that question. I’ve had guys approach me with my hair in its natural state that turned out to be dogs, but I could see the justification behind that hypothesis when it comes to him.

 

 

DIY: Shredded, Tie Dye Screen-Printed Tee

 

Like this T-Shirt? Wanna know how to make your own?Below are step by step instructions. Let’s get started!

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1) First get a plain white or light-colored t-shirt of any style

2) Tie dye shirt. If you don’t know how to tie dye, here’s how to: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hRQK0ToE90w

3) After t-shirt is tie dyed, washed and dried, place it on a flat surface and prepare to shred it. I did vertical shredding at the bottom of mine. There are tons of other patterns to choose from when shredding shirts. All you are going to need is a pair of sharp scissors. Here’s how to do a shredded fringe pattern: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nqe1DKECbaU

4) Find an image of your choice in Google search. Any image your heart desires

5) Copy and paste image in word and print on transfer paper (not regular printing paper), following the directions. I used Avery Transfer paper for dark fabrics, but the one for light fabrics can also be used if your tie dye didn’t make your shirt dark. I could have used light transfer paper, but I didn’t have any. Light transfer paper is cheaper ($6-$8) for a packet of 6 sheets. Dark fabric paper is around ($11-$20) for 6 sheets. These can be purchased at Michaels, Walmart, Office Depot, Ebay, Amazon,Target; Walgreens, CVS and Rite Aid may have them.

6) Cut image out along the lines or in whatever pattern you want it to appear on the tshirt

7) How to light transfer fabric: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Plikh7ktzDU
How to dark transfer fabric: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3FbjJZtJsCo

8) Follow Avery instructions about ironing on picture unto shirt.

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9) I splashed black nail polish on the edges of my piece sign picture after ironing it unto shirt so it would blend more with the tie dye (strictly artistic purposes, not required). Fabric paint would have been more wise to use in place of nail polish, but I didn’t have any. Fabric paint cost around 70 cents at Walmart by the way. Nail polish pretty much works the same; doesn’t wash out or smudge once dry.

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10) Voila. You’re done 🙂

Sounds complicated, but very simple. You don’t have to do all three (tie dye, shredding, and screen printing) to one shirt. You can just choose one creative idea and be spunky with a boring tee.

 

Happy almost Summer 🙂

 

My Hair’s Soulmate is too Expensive

 

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When I applied Miss Jessie’s “Pillow Soft Curls” it was like love at first application.There was no need for any other product.

I have no clue what magical combination they use in this product to get it to tame my hair in one go, but when I applied it to my hair the gates of heaven swung open.

Now I’m not a Miss Jessie’s, Carol’s Daughter, or any of the high-end natural hair line coping, kind of girl. I’ve tried Miss Jessie’s when I first went natural, and didn’t care for her butter-creme or curly pudding, nor their ridiculous prices.

My hair is not the pickiest. It has a less is more attitude. My product junkie ways comes from me looking for that one product to adhere to all of my needs. I hate dabbing on more than 2 or 3 layers unto my hair.

Natural hair is supposed to be low maintenance and free, and when packed with product it takes that away.

Anyway, back to Miss Jessie’s “Pillow Soft Curls”.

Last summer I was making pretty decent money from my internship (my first corporate full time job), so I decided to splurge and give Pillow Soft Curls a try. Everything advertised on the label appealed to me :

“The name says it all.  Pillow Soft Curls™ is a quick drying styling lotion that is perfect for achieving big, soft, curly hair that we all dream about.  Pillow Soft Curls™  is the first “fabric softener” type styling lotion for your hair leaving your curls clothesline fresh and fluffy soft.  It spreads so smoothly and feels as light as a feather on your curls.”

Big, soft, FEATHERY; Girl what!?! They had me right there. I LIVE for feathery curls. I do not like my curls super defined. I like fluffy bouncy, lightweight hair.

On payday I couldn’t stop looking at reviews online. I could hear the product calling my name. I couldn’t wait to get off work!

I went to Target asap and purchased an 8oz tube for $22 plus tax. I prayed it would deliver or I was going to return it without hesitation.

Surprisingly it did deliver, and beyond expectation.

The price kills me though. It only contains 8oz of product. I wash and go 3 times a week in the Winter, and damn near everyday in the summer.

With careful use, it’s still probably going to only last me 2 weeks. That’s $44 a month plus tax for 1 product, when all of my other products combined for the month don’t even cost that.

I don’t know. I’ve been dying to get my hands on another tube.

I’m currently a jobless, recent grad (4 mths post graduation). Maybe when I cop another well paying job, I’ll make pillow soft curls a staple in my hair routine.

I still think she should lower her prices by a few dollars though, sheesh. I mean..I don’t even think her products are all organic so..

My Best Second Day Curls Ever! Thanks to Banding <3

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Banding benefits:
-Substitute for nighttime pineappling. Keeps curls intact. I prefer banding 100x better than pineappling, which makes my hair stick up and stiff

-Stretches curls. Not necessarily loosens curls, but allows them to fall more downward. Great method for short hair.

Last-night before bed, I sprayed my worn wash and go with some of my homemade conditioning/ refreshing spray, then banded my hair.

I just discovered what banding was about a month ago. I know i’m late.

Anyway, I parted my hair in 3 sections & banded each section from root to center, as I didn’t want to stretch or mess up the natural way my ends curl.

I woke up this morning and took the hair bands out. My hair was like 15% still damp, so I put a little Shea Moisture Curl Milk in my palms, raked through my hair and fluffed.

My hair finished air drying fully in like 45 mins.

This is by far the best, softest, most moisturized, defined second day hair I’ve ever a had. I have to give credit to my glycerin pre poo yesterday in conjunction to banding; my new loves ❤️.

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Results!: Glycerin as a Pre Poo

Results= effective 😁 (see previous post)

I initially did a video to portray results, but apparently Facebook isn’t familiar with the Fair Use Act, and I am not paying to upload directly to here. So because Facebook repeatedly blocked my video from uploading, I unfortunately I have to post screenshot ted pictures.

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I am really happy with the amount of water and moisture my hair retained!My strands feel flexible and not dry as though they’ll snap easily, like usually.

Before bed last night, I sprayed my homemade leave in refresher spray all over it, because I wanted it to stay as moisturized as possible, then I banded my hair, woke up and was surprised at how moisturized it still was and curls intact.

Glycerin is really successful in helping retain moisture if you have dry hair. I think my dry hair was caused by coloring/bleaching my hair a lot in the past, and hopefully that will change.

It didn’t work for me using it as a sealant, and I didn’t notice a great difference mixing it in my products, but as a pre poo, yessss! 🙌

Glycerin/Honey As A Pre-Poo

Glycerin and honey are humectants.

What are humectants?

humectant is a substance that helps a product retain water. Humectants attract moisture and humidity. They allow whatever moisture is in the air to be absorbed into whatever they are applied to.

I tried using my bottle of glycerin as a sealant, but it just makes my hair frizzy, which should have been expected, as it attracts moisture/humidity.

Today I decided to use it as a pre-poo. And I say pre-poo as in not just before shampooing. I Iike to  pre-poo before I co-wash sometimes when I have time.

Why glycerin as a pre-poo?

Well if you think about it, humectants attract moisture/humidity/steam right? So if you apply it to your hair before you wash/co-wash, the steam from the shower will allow your conditioner and the water to fully penetrate your strands when rinsing, which I imagine will give your hair a silkier feel.

I Googled glycerin pre-poo before writing this post and minimal results came up. Using myself as a guinea pig, we’ll see if this works. It should. It only makes sense.

Update, plus a pic after I wash it out.

Note: Honey, as I said is also a humectant and can be used as a substitute for glycerin, but may be more difficult to apply to dry hair as a pre-poo.

 

Warnig: Overtime honey and glycerin will lighten your hair, or affect its color, so this is an fyi.

Cultural Read: Brian Lara “Beating The Field” (Autobiography)

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Once upon a time, there was a little girl who loved to read, but became lazy with age, haha.

As a child I loved reading for fun! Physical books were like toys to me.

I used to love coming to my uncle’s house in Atlanta because he had a bookshelf full of awesome reads.

The last books I read thoroughly from his collection were The Coldest Winter Ever, The Bluest Eyes, and Angela’s Ashes.

Since then, my reading habit declined. I haven’t read a physical book for leisure in years.

I just walked by the same book shelf and decided to browse. I instantly started reminiscing on the days the smell if books gave me a sense of euphoria.

I scoped out one in particular on an extremely famous West Indian cricket player from Trinidad, named Brian Lara.

I remembered him being in West Indian history texts for record breaking scores. He is a big deal there and in England.

I love learning more about my culture, so I picked this book up and decided to force myself to make time to read it.

I love that it also contains few pictures. It just evokes the ‘little girl that loved to read’ in me more.
😁

Plain Yogurt: For Skin Renewal, Hair Growth, Feminine Health, and Teeth

Yogurt for Skin:

1) Natural skin moisturizer/brightener

2) Fights acne and pimples

3) Reduces blemishes tanning, under eye dark circles, and skin discoloration. (Yogurt contains high amts of lactid acid which helps lighten discolored areas back to their natural pigment).

4)Fights aging: reduces the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles

5) soothes sunburns

6) Cures infected cuts (just dab a small amount of yogurt on a gauze and apply to affected area often)

7) Hand and Foot Care with Yogurt: Dry hands and feet and damaged cuticles can be treated with yogurt.

How I use it on my skin?- Well I use it mainly for the 3rd benefit listed. I have crazy dark circles under my eyes due to being a night-owl, and the fact that I have large eyes, which are more prone to dark circles. I also have light discoloration on my cheeks. 

I wash my face in warm water with my regular face wash first. I pat dry my face, and while my pores are still open, I rub yogurt all over my face, focusing on my cheeks and under eyes. I wear the yogurt on my face for 15 mins as a mask; it will turn a little hard. Then I wash it off with really cold water, and my face feels amazingly refreshed. It’s a beautiful feeling.

 

Yogurt for Hair:

1) Natural conditioner.

You can condition your hair with yogurt. I just did today and it provided great slip and smelled yummy 🙂

2) Get rid of split ends and hair fall

3) Rids dandruff and itchy scalp

4) Aids in hair growth: The zinc and lactic acid properties help stimulate blood circulation, which accelerates hair growth.

5) Strengthening treatment: The protein content in yogurt provides ample nourishment and strengthening to the hair without making it dull or dry. 

 

Yogurt for Feminine Health:

Cures vaginal odor and minor infections (primarily yeast infections), Improves the taste of vagina: Eat plain yogurt regularly; can also be directly applied to vagina. I personally would prefer to eat it lol, because inserting it sounds a little gross.

 

Yogurt for Teeth:

Yogurt contains phosphorous and calcium that helps strengthen the tooth enamel and form a protection layer that helps fight yellowness and bad breath issues. Simply rub yogurt on your teeth regularly to see whiter teeth in a few weeks.